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When someone says that something is “mismatched” what words come to your mind? The first words that I thought of was wrong, or incompatible, but you know what? That isn’t necessarily true, though. What about when it comes to marriage?
So, on Saturday Ruben and I will celebrateÂ our six-year anniversary. I am astounded at how fast time has gone by already. Our marriage was one of those that you hear about on tv, but hardly ever see or meet the couple in real life. When we tell people we met on the internet we are usually faced with the typical oh? or hmm…
These past six years have taught me much about myself and made me even more thankful for my Ruben. He completes me! I am the more free-spirited one, and he is the nerd, he needs help loosening up, and I need help reigning in. We have different tastes in music, movies, and tv shows, but we still find common ground, and sometimes, sometimes I like the things he listens to, Â but don’t tell him I said that 😉
Marriage is not a fifty-fifty relationship it is one hundred percent from both of you. You have to give it your all to make it work! The Lord knew the areas in my life that I needed to be molded and made more into the likeness of Him and my spouse had helped challenge me. Here are Six things that Six years of marriage has taught me:
- Life is not about me it’s about the Lord and how we can Glorify and serve Him together through our marriage and family.
- Contentment When things don’t go my way I need to accept that and not get mad. This is still a painful lesson for me!
- Listen more I love when we get a moment to sit down together and listen to each others hearts and what our days entailed. I know that I can take over a conversation sometimes, and I am learning to sit and listen to my husband when he pours his heart out to me.
- Patience is a virtue and one that I am always working on. I am a go-getter, when I want to do something, I do it. Ruben is not, he thinks through things before he acts on them. I am thankful for his patience and have learned much from him.
- Be in the Word daily! When I study the Word, my responses toward my husband and children are more patient and understanding. I am a better wife and mother when I am immersed in God’s Word.
- Respect- How do we talk to our husbands in public and private? Do we build him up, or tear him down? Our words are so powerful! Be careful with how you use them.
When I was single, I had a dream of what the perfect life would be like when I got married. My dream is nothing like reality; it’s better! I am thankful for the Lord and how He intervened in my dreams and made them better than I ever could have imagined. I wouldn’t trade any of it, ever!
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**These were my notes from Todd Friels DVD titled: Anxiety- The Biblical Cure**
What do the two of these have to do with each other? Actually, a lot! If you are not sound in your theology, then you won’t have a correct view of God, which will lead you to be anxious. Theology is the study of God, and when we study God’s Word and really get to know Him and his love, goodness, and grace then we will understand and be able to trust more. How can we put our faith and trust in someone we don’t even know?
When we are engulfed in the things of this world, then our mind will be overtaken by those things rather than the Word of God. Our thoughts drive our emotions, and when we think about worldly things, then we have worldly emotions. But because I know the Truth of God’s Word it has changed my thinking and focus on Him instead of myself.
When we have a correct and sound understanding of the one true God our thoughts will not be on things of this world, but things above. Churches have traded in sound doctrine for entertainment and pleasure, instead of preaching God’s Word we decided that we would rather focus on pleasing each other. The Lord must be in FULL control of our lives He must be the engine that is running us, not the world.
Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.
Which path are you on?
- Jesus, Bible, Truth> Faith> Thinking> Emotions> Actions> Emotions
- World, Devil, Lies, Self> Faith (self)> Emotions> Thinking> Actions > Emotions
Let me leave you with a final thought from Todd Friel:
Knowing that the Bible is the word of God and not man should give someone great confidence when they read about who God is and, in this particular context, what He says about anxiety and worry. These are not just helpful thoughts based upon mans ideas but are God’s divine revelation to us. Because of that, everything God says is completely reliable. It is absolute truth. This should bring great encouragement to the anxious heart and peace to the worrier.
So my post the other day provoked a lot of passion. I received lots of stories and messages of comfort from individuals. But, I need to follow up with you and not just leave you all hanging; I want to give you some support and with the Lord’s guidance, help you. I don’t want you to commiserate with me and feel bad about yourself for having this disorder. I want you to do something and take charge of it! Anxiety is something that we need to fight continually day in and day out. But we need to fight it with words of truth, God’s Word not the wisdom of the “world”. When we let the things of this world overtake us and our thinking it’s easy for our minds and thoughts to wander.
I used to watch the news but had to stop because it was exceeding my thoughts and making me anxious about everything and everyone around me. Once I deleted those pages and apps from my life, I could focus better on the important matters at hand rather than the sit and worry all day. Garbage in garbage out!
I know how easy it is to use this disorder as a “crutch” of some sort. We like to blame our shortcomings on it and use it to get out of situations we know will not be easy for us. We need to face our fears and do things we don’t like to do! Once we put ourselves in situations that make us anxious, it will get easier.
Isaiah 41:10- “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Memorize God’s Word and His truth and repeat those to yourself daily, preach the Gospel to yourself, and have someone close to you to encourage you. It can be so debilitating when we are told that we don’t have enough faith, or we need to do XYZ then we will be “cured” of Anxiety. Anxiety is a battle that many people struggle with and telling them they need to have more faith is counterproductive.
If someone close to you struggles with Anxiety, please come beside them and give them the Truths from the Bible, tell them how much you love them, and tell them you will pray for them and then pray for them!